As a young man, I once read a preacher say that he gave his wife a peck before every meal to ensure things were okay between them. I remember thinking, “What is difficult about that? Of course I would gladly kiss my
spouse all the time.” Then I got married.

Very quickly, I learned that marriage is nothing like the fantasies we create in our minds, It takes self-control, humility—the real fruit of the Spirit—to show affection and kindness continually, to someone who has offended you, or whom you are upset with. Marriage is beautiful, but it is also deeply and embarrasingly cleansing. How? Marriage exposes thingswithin you that warm feelings and sermons alone cannot fix. There’s nowhere to hide within marriage and so it forces you to adapt or fail.

As a pastor of many young adults, the Holy Spirit began to lead me to teach on marriage with a clearer, sharper focus. I saw that beyond trauma and demonic attacks, which are real and a major destroyer of marriages, the greatest enemy of marriage is ignorance and misinformation. A lot of that will be confronted and corrected in this devotional which was first published daily, beginning in April 2023. For about the whole 365 day year, I sat awake till between midnight and 6am to ensure our people had it available to pray with on waking.

Many step into marriage carrying unrealistic expectations, unbalanced ideas, cultural pressures, emotional wounds, and half-truths. When you are not taught properly, you expect what does not exist, demand what no human can give, and assume what God never promised.
This book also includes special segments called Parapets—practical boundaries for protecting your heart, purity, emotions, relationships, and
spiritual life. These sections are new and were not part of the earlier daily bits online from 2023-2025.

There are Days of Prayer sessions included that you can scan the QR codes to join on YouTube or Telegram. Many who joined experienced powerful encounters: deliverances, emotional healing, clarity, the lifting of burdens, and testimonies of restoration.

My prayer is that as you go through these pages, the Holy Spirit will teach, correct, heal, strengthen, and prepare you for a godly, joyful, and
lasting marriage. May God make beautiful what you already have, bless what you want, and even restore what you have lost. May lies be broken, expectations align with truth, and every area of your life be surrounded with God’s wisdom.

Ita Udoh
December 2025.